Starting Off

I’m experiencing a career crisis today. Have you ever had one? I suppose in this day and age, the question should be more like, “How many career crises have you had?”

I am a talented, experienced professional who has enjoyed a fair amount of success in my chosen field and had the occasional opportunity to branch out a bit and explore other areas tangential to my core competencies. Having left full-time employment of my own accord this past June, I’m once again enjoying free agency. I’ve done the freelance-work-from-home gig before and not only enjoyed it, but also was able to sustain my family financially. I know I can do it again, no question.

Here’s the crux, though: I cannot do free agency in the same manner in which I worked before. I literally cannot make myself do it. There’s been a seismic shift in my priorities, my personality and my perspective that simply won’t permit any activity or function that even somewhat resembles “business as usual.”

So, I sit here at my desk and struggle with what to do and how to go about doing it, but not doing it in my usual way. Seemingly endless possibilities swirl around in my head, taunting me with promises of excitement, newness, purpose and meaningful work, yet I can’t seem to focus. Where is the hell is Square One so I can get started?

I think my mother nailed it on the head yesterday, when she said, “There’s just too much you want to do.” That’s absolutely true. I want to coach small businesses on innovation, resiliency, and sustainable operating & marketing strategies. I want to pick my kids up at school. I want to teach innovation processes to anyone who will listen. I want to find time to indulge my passion for all things paper and maybe create a line of stationery. I want to incite passion for local economic development. I want to write more and earn something from my effort. I want to bake, specifically an apple pie. I want to not worry about how to pay the next bill that arrives.

The list of what I want to do multiplies when I turn my back, so I have no choice but to face it head-on and tackle it as best I can. But once again I ask,  where the hell is Square One?

Wise Words

A great time of change is upon us. This will prove difficult for most, especially the sleeping. Human kind must resist Violence, Hate and Anger. Vibrate higher.

Couldn’t have said it better myself. Thanks to Bryan Helfrich for sharing on Facebook.

7 Days and Counting

One week from today is Halloween…and Samhain. Ready to celebrate? We all know how much fun Halloween is! Samhain is a wonderful celebration, too, and it’s not as freaky as you might think nor as freaky as some make it out to be. It’s based in nature and the ultimate divine. It’s the Celtic new year, a time to look inward, reflecting on what has happened in life over the past year before looking forward to the coming one, and focusing on goals to achieve. It is also a time to remember loved ones who have passed over, and connect with the family ancestors. And it it is a time of thanks for all the blessings that have been bestowed upon the family and home in the past year. You can learn more about the ancient day and its history at the links below; enjoy the discovery!

Meanwhile, I’ll share a traditional Samhain blessing with you:

May the ancestors deliver blessings on you and yours…
May the new year bear great fruits for you…
May your granted wishes be as many as the seeds in a pomegranate…
May the slide into darkness bring you light…
May the memories of what has been keep you strong for what is to be…
May this Samhain cleanse your heart, your soul, and your mind!

More info about Samhain:
ReligiousTolerance.org
Wikipedia
BeliefNet.com

A Charmed Life

I have a confession to make: I love that kitschy show “Charmed.” It’s on every morning and has become a part of my daily routine. (Kinda sad, I know.) But today it took a central role in reminding me of some very important messages that I need to take to heart.

The first Charmed episode on this morning’s schedule was the final episode of the series. The next episode (TNT shows them back-to-back) was the first episode of the series — the series premiere — essentially starting the re-runs of the Charmed all over again.

A happy ending followed by a chance to start over.

This morning I asked my spirit guides to speak to me and send me some direction, and since then random thoughts, remembrances of conversations, cliches and such — plus the odd sequence of Charmed episodes — have been front and center of my morning. The cliche “when one door closes, another door opens” implanted itself in my brain, to be supplanted by a truism from a dear friend: “You have to sufficiently mourn before you can move on.” And a few similar thoughts.

OK, I get it. Message received, loud and clear. You think I’m a nut? That could be true, but think for a minute…

How many times have you been noodling a problem or an idea, turning it over in your mind, and then out of the blue, the answer just pop into your head? What about seeing or hearing something that really “speaks” to you in a way you can’t ignore? Or praying for guidance and discovering that the way just opened up before you?

The last four months have been filled with significant life transitions for me: saying goodbye to a career at a company I dearly loved, the end of a way of parenting my daughters that wasn’t working for any of us, a shift of perspective and priorities, and a renewed emphasis on those things that are truly important in life — the intangibles that we all desire and yet don’t seem to make time to achieve. You know the ones: peace, love, joy, wellness.

So what am I to take from this morning? Exactly what’s been shared with me. I need to mourn the passing of what was, no matter how wonderful it was for the time, in order to move on to what will be. I need to remember that when once door closes, another does indeed open, and that I have the freedom to walk through the doorway should I choose to do so. And that an ending is always followed by a beginning, a chance to start over. I’m thankful for my reminders.

What do you need to be reminded of? And are you listening for those messages?

My Office Mate is a Dog

He’s self-absorbed, immature and stirs up trouble if you aren’t paying enough attention to him. I can’t count how many times I’m interrupted while trying to get work done. It’s absolutely infuriating! Just trying to write this post, I’ve had to stop four times.

I work from home, and Oscar, our beagle-Lab-mix year-old puppy, may be the primary reason I’m going broke/losing my mind/not getting stuff done/stressed out/pissed off. It’s damn lucky for him that he’s cute and the girls love him.

I am definitely a cat person. There’s no doubt about it. My two cats don’t give a damn about me or whether I want to interact with them or not. To them, I’m a source of food, water, shelter and the occasional scratch behind the ears, and little else. I’m good with that.

Having a dog is like having another child… like trying to work from home with an active toddler running around. It seems it can’t be done without a lot of frustration, distraction and yelling. It’s just not practical to pack up and get all of my work done from the coffee shop, so I have to make working from home work somehow.

So, I ask… How do you dog people do it? I mean, really?

What do you think?

Every month or so, I’ll get a great email that reminds me of a truth that I’ve known always but may have neglected. Today I was fortunate to receive one of those emails from someone I’ll call “Matthew”.

I was reminded of how incredibly important positive thoughts and visualization are to manifesting what it is that we want out of life. It’s imperative to think in positive terms and NOT dwell on what we don’t want or like. Think about it for a minute…

If you spend energy thinking about the undesirable things you don’t want in your life or the world, won’t that attract more energy and just serve to make the undesirable things more powerful? Alternatively, if you spend energy thinking about good, desirable things  — abundance, health, happiness — that will attract more energy and make the desirable things more powerful, yes?

In more simple terms, you attract more of what you focus your attention and energy on, so why not be sure you’re focusing on the good stuff?

From “Matthew’s” email are a few suggestions…

“Visualize crowds of healthy appearing, smiling people of all ages and races strolling in lovely parks and laughing children on colorful playgrounds. Envision vegetable gardens thriving and tables laden with food, prosperous neighborhoods with trees and flowering shrubs, schools and universities filled with eager students.

For preservation of the natural environment and rejuvenation of damaged lands and seas, visualize Earth with crystal clear skies and waters, verdant lands where deserts used to be, flourishing forests.

For the humane treatment of all animals, picture animals of every species grazing in meadows and peaceably mingling with one another and with the people.”

I know that positive thoughts and visualization can work wonders for our world, so I’m going to be sure I allow some time for it every day. How about you?

I’m the Mayor of Should-ville

It isn’t an honorific that I’m glad to claim nor one that I would encourage anyone I care about to covet. I know you’ve visited Should-ville. It’s where everything you think or say to yourself opens as “I should…”

Should-ville sucks. Visiting — or worse, living there! — undermines your efforts to actually DO anything worthwhile or productive. In Should-ville, you end up daydreaming of all kinds of things you SHOULD do without ever taking any real action. Rather than feeling empowered and excited about the possibilities you put before yourself, you end up feeling defeated and purposeless.

Think about it. How many times have you said to yourself “I should exercise,” but didn’t do it, and then felt like a slug. Or “I should take more time for myself,” but never got around to it, and then took out your frustration on those around you. You probably have a top “should” statement. Currently, “I should take more time to meditate and just ‘be’” is at the top of my list. Am I actually doing it? No.

I’ve come to a decision today that I happily announce to the Universe. Effective immediately I abdicate my mayoral position of Should-ville. No longer will I visit, check in or even Mapquest Should-ville. I officially abandon Should-ville and all statements or “I should” and plan to replace them with thoughts and sentiments that open with “I am..,” “I will..,” or “I have…”

Would you like to abandon Should-ville and come along?

I Am a Wayward Child

Or so I was told via my grandmother, who’s on the other side now. It’s time I pulled my share of the maternal line and get on with being the kind of mother my daughters must have…NOW.

I’ve worked so long and so hard to be “successful” in the world, i.e. earning a decent salary, working a great job, volunteering through leadership positions and so on. That’s all well and good and had its purpose.

The Universe pushed me to change my reality, so no more Big Job, Big Money, Big Ego.

The focus of my new reality is my daughters and rearing them to be “that kind of woman”. You know the type: compassionate, kind and connected but also opinionated, strong and determined. To get them there will require a lot of energy, patience and butt-kicking from me. You see, they have mouths and attitudes, and they know how to use them…and they tend to use them for less-than-good purposes, like sassing back to me or wallowing in selfishness.

Yes, it’s part of their natural process of testing boundaries, identifying where I end and they begin, and creating their own identities. But it’s my job as their mom to be firm with those boundaries and rein the girls in when necessary.

I’ve been a wayward child for too long. I need to do my best to keep my girls from become wayward as well. So here I plunge headlong into motherhood with renewed purpose. May God and Goddess help me.

Hello, Tuesday. Why do you look like Monday?

My Tuesday has shown up disguised as a Monday. That bites. A water main broke this morning, so the utility shut off the water. It’s not expected back on until noon. So, I had to reschedule a meeting with a potential client since I’m not fit for public exposure just yet. You can’t meet someone you’re hoping to get to work with if your hair is beyond ponytail redemption.

Add to that a mean case of heartburn that came between me and my coffee. I know you know how miserable a morning can be without caffeine.

To top it off, the dog tore up a window screen and threw up on the carpet…twice.

So in the midst of this, I’m trying to focus on my goal of living an authentic life. The day has brought authentic routine chaos. Guess I should be a bit more specific in what kind of authenticity I’m going for.

“Pssst…I’m speaking to you” ~ The Universe

As part of my routine each morning, I check my email, scan my RSS feeds and hop on Facebook to see what’s happening in the worlds of the folks I care about. Every so often there’s a post that really stands out as more of a message from the Universe that happens to be delivered through a friend. Today was an exception: there were two such messages.

The first was quite simple: “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” You might be thinking, “Well, sure! Duh!” Seems an obvious if not ubiquitous statement, right? What made this message special was its timing and its purpose as a reminder of where I am in life and a prompt to contemplate why I’m at that place.

Hot on the first message’s heels was the second (see the picture below), which essentially affirms that life is short and simple and to enjoy it we simply need to live our dreams and share our passions. In essence, we need to get out of our own way and follow our bliss, and in doing so all else that we need or desire will follow.

What a hard lesson this is to learn! I’m a recovering control freak, and finding the inner fortitude to allow life to happen rather than trying to orchestrate it goes against my nature. Remember the episode of “Seinfeld” in which George did the opposite of what he would normally do, and in doing the opposite everything worked out like a dream for him? That’s where I am right now, this very second, and it sometimes takes all the willpower I can muster to stop myself, consider what I’m about to do — out of habit! — and do the opposite. When I’m successful, I enjoy beneficial outcomes much in the was as George did.

What messages did the Universe send you this morning? Were you open and listening?